As we continue this journey to strive for our best and better ourselves, there are some challenges that take time to solve. One is self-sabotage. I don’t mean setting up traps for yourself like Tom and Jerry. I am talking about those habits we don’t notice. Those reflexes that kick into gear before you can catch them.
One of those habits is a form of self-defense. We all have been hurt, disappointed, or betrayed at different points in our life. Those types of scars sometimes refuse to heal. Your capacity to trust shrinks and your guard thickens. It gets harder to distinguish between friend and foe, so you keep everyone at a distance. It is not paranoia, but more a shield of protection. The problem with these kinds of scars is that they block you from meeting great new people and receiving new opportunities. Let’s work on that.
Heal and Forgive
Subconsciously and directly, we suppress a lot of emotions. We might not consider it holding a grudge. We might believe we have mastered pushing past them. This is not healthy because it keeps you feeling disappointed all the time. Take the time to heal emotionally and spiritually. Fully forgive yourself. I don’t mean to track down that mean kid from elementary school to tell them you forgive them. I also don’t mean to continue blaming others for everything that has not worked out for you. Forgive yourself to clear your plate. Accept your past, nurture your present, and embrace your future.
Expand Your Comfort Zone
Removing the blocks around you requires some risk. It will not feel comfortable. You may never be fully certain if you are making the right decisions. That is the point. This kind of risk will provide lessons and challenges that will enhance your life more than you could ever imagine. Create an environment that pushes you to interact with new people and experiences.
Practice and Initiate
The only way to truly remove these blocks is to re-align your lifestyle. This is not a mission to reach a certain weight, tax bracket, or grade. The plan should be to maintain this mindset forever. Thus, we cannot take a passive approach. Initiate dialogue with yourself and others to practice healing and reaching beyond your comfort zone. Take note of what triggers hurtful memories and guarded reactions. Make a point to not push past your emotions, but sit with them. Learn from those emotions to enable you to move on.
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