Tag: Lifestyle

  • It’s Giving At The Kwame Nkrumah Memorial Park

    It’s Giving At The Kwame Nkrumah Memorial Park

    Let’s go outside! Did you know the Kwame Nkrumah Memorial Park and Mausoleum is now re-opened to the public? Would you like to know what to expect? I had the pleasure of visiting the newly renovated Kwame Nkrumah Memorial Park and Mausoleum on a beautiful and sunny Saturday afternoon. I also picked up a few observations and thoughts I wanted to share with you. Let’s indulge, shall we?

    First, logistics. As of the time of posting this, the ticket prices are as follows:

    Regarding the renovations, I feel they did a beautiful job in enhancing and redefining the space. The moment you walk through the entrance gate, you meet a large Welcome sign and a profile illustration of Kwame Nkrumah. You feel as if you are being transported into a full dedicated experience. Uplifting music is playing nearby. On the day that I went, people of all ages were enjoying their time as they took photos and explored.

    Yes, the sky was actually this blue and beautiful on a Saturday afternoon in July. Lucky me.

    The reception hall is decorated with a pleasant blend of minimalistic clean lines and Ghanaian colorful culture. The high ceiling and large windows make it feel spacious and refreshing. Depending on when you go, there might be a bit of a line to purchase your ticket.

    The architect behind the new design, who is Ghanaian, was able to enhance the park with a signature millennial aesthetic by creating multiple spaces that cater to ambiance, easy photos and videos, and history in a relaxed and pleasant vibe. The fountain sings a different upbeat song every hour. The garden is lush and green. All the architecture doubles up as the perfect backdrop. It is giving what it needs to give.

    Now, for the museum. This is where I feel there is room to do a lot more.

    There are two parts to the museum. Upstairs, you walk through a hall. The floors, walls, and ceiling are black with quotes from Kwame Nkrumah written in gold font. As you are walking, you hear in the distance Kwame Nkrumah’s voice as he speaks announcing Ghana’s independence. At the top, there is a screen looping the video of that speech. Downstairs, you walk through a room to view key points of Kwame Nkrumah’s life. This room includes photos and artifacts.

    This is where I feel a lot more can be added. For me, walking through this room felt as if I was reading facts from a Wikipedia page or encyclopedia. They were all factual, but they did not include any context. For example, on one side of the room, there are images of Ghanaians celebrating Kwame Nkrumah as president. On the other side of the room, there are images of Ghanaians celebrating tearing down Kwame Nkrumah’s statue. There is nothing in the middle to explain these two extreme positions. As another example, there is long blocks of text listing all the factories, schools, hospitals, industries, and initiatives Kwame Nkrumah developed and established. Again, no context on what that did for Ghana.

    Are you open to hear my feedback on what would help with this? Are you sure? Ok.

    I feel details on what Kwame Nkrumah’s writings were about are important to showcase in the museum to better illustrate what his definition and thoughts were on Pan-Africanism, Ghana, freedom, etc. The gap between independence and coup d’état should include details of the CIA’s involvement, the Ghanaians who participated in it, and the historical use of the illusion of democracy vs communism propaganda. The image of the “big 6” should include details on who among them were involved in the overthrow of Kwame Nkrumah and how since that day Ghana’s presidency continues to only involve the families of the “big 6” with a few breaks in between due to military coups. It would be cool to have an infographic depicting every industry and initiative Kwame Nkrumah established illustrating when it was opened, how it impacted Ghana, when it was closed or destroyed, and who was responsible for shutting it down.

    I feel the library, which at the moment of this post is an empty room and will most likely be completed later, should have copies of Kwame Nkrumah’s books available to read physically and on screens.

    Ok, ok. I hear you. This might be too much pepper. But I believe we can handle it. We deserve it.

    To be transparent with you, I did not go to school in Ghana. I see what Ghana represents inside and outside of Ghana. Outside, Ghana is a beacon of hope for Pan-Africanism, freedom, and liberation. Outside, Ghanaians are respected for their work ethic, culture, achievements, and hospitality. Outside, Kwame Nkrumah is a legend. Inside, Ghana is hard paa…depending on which bubble you exist in. Inside, Ghanaians are divided, distracted, enjoying, and progressing. Inside, Kwame Nkrumah is a list of dates, depending on whether your family supported him or not.

    None of these things are good or bad. It is what it is. Please understand that I am not trying to instigate insults or belittle anyone’s experience. But, do you see why it is so important to make Kwame Nkrumah’s full story be accessible to all? Yes, this park is a tourist attraction. So, it is an opportunity to set the record straight. I’m sure this will not interrupt US-Ghana relations. But also, this park is one of the few places in Accra to learn an aspect of Ghana’s history. Ghanaian students should be going on field trips to visit this park. Does Ghana’s school system teach the full story? These students should be able to come to the park and learn how strategic one needs to be to make a difference for their people. Or do we still want to make sure no one can pick up from where Kwame Nkrumah left off?

    I understand, everyone is tired. But, your children are not. They will grow up and hopefully say no to the enemy of progress one day. Why not give them the tools to develop that confidence now?

    Again, this is an intellectual and social conversation, respectfully. I am keen to hear different perspectives on what this could look like. What are your thoughts? Share with me in the comments. I love hearing from you.

    Also, make sure to visit this park. It is definitely worth the visit.

  • Self-Help Games: Avoiding Success Paralysis

    Self-Help Games: Avoiding Success Paralysis

    We know we are not the only ones who have spent countless time and energy absorbing self-help books, TEDx talks, and masterclasses searching for answers. Did the Chicken Noodle Soup book series also have you in a chokehold at one time? How many masterclasses (original or not) have you yet to complete? There’s no shame here. Let’s talk about it.

    In this episode, we share our experience with self-help content, including challenges with finding stories that reflect our reality and discovering our own answers to wisdom and success.

    Let us know what you think about the episode.

    If these conversations resonate with you, please subscribe to our podcast. It is streaming on Spotify, Google, Apple, Pocketcast, and Afripods.

  • I’m Neurodivergent. Now what?

    I’m Neurodivergent. Now what?

    Neurodivergent is a non-medical umbrella term that describes people with various mental functions where their brain processes, learns, and behaves differently from what is considered “typical.”

    We like to consider neurodivergents as mutants who deserve honorary status in X-men.

    In this episode of the Curious and Cultured podcast, we share our experiences learning about neurodivergence, discovering we both are on the spectrum in different degrees, creating routines that accommodate our beautiful minds, and discussing movies we feel showcase neurodivergent characters in a way that is wholesome.

    Note, neither of us are psychology or medical experts and are not giving medical advice. We do hope and trust this episode encourages you to accept yourself more and think out of the box when it comes to holding space for others and yourself.

    As I mentioned in this episode, I first came across the term neurodivergent in this article about rejection sensitivity. Rejection is a normal part of life and we all experience it in different degrees. However, as I continue to learn how to understand myself, I have noted that I internalize these types of feelings more intensely then my peers. The experiences that article shares was the first time I felt seen in my own experiences with my need for information, tendency to isolate and overestimate situations, anxiety, challenges with reading social cues, masking for the comfort of others, and overthinking to an intense spiral effect. This lead me to further exploring neurodivergence beyond learning abilities.

    With the amount of information that is now available about neurodivergence, it can get overwhelming and confusing to understand what is considered “typical”, what is a one time experience, and what is something that needs intentional accommodation. Since this has to do with our brain functions and how they are felt, I feel a lot of this should be seen as fluid. Maybe you resonate with a mixture of functions within the neurodivergence umbrella. There is no need to try to fit in one box. Instead, I prefer to explore and use this information to better understand myself and others, be more accepting of myself and others, and develop tools and routines to care for myself and others.

    Here are a few things that have helped me along this journey of being a wholesome mutant:

    • Accept and believe that I am not defective or a burden.
    • Maintain that I am not a victim in my life and no one is a villain in my life.
    • Take full responsibility to be my biggest cheerleader and best friend.
    • Research information to explore possibilities and gain understanding, not to fixate on a problem or diagnosis.
    • Create routines and experiences that resonate with me and align with my needs.
    • Become comfortable with prioritizing my needs. For example, stepping away from a crowd to soothe anxiety, ask for help or feedback (and be open to receive it), and/or embrace healthy solitude and rest.
    • Explore and lean into my unique strengths and talents.
    • Journal as often as needed.
    • Accept not everyone will understand, and that’s ok.

    I hope you found this episode helpful. What are your thoughts? What would you like to learn more about neurodivergence?

    Do you find terms like neurodivergence helpful for individuals and the collective? Does it provide the vocabulary and context needed for us all to be more considerate and responsible?

    Let me know in the comments. I always love hearing from you.

  • Crash Landing On K-Dramas

    Crash Landing On K-Dramas

    Are you obsessed with K-Dramas? Or are you obsessed with K-Dramas? In this episode, we share how we started watching K-Dramas, which shows pulled at our heartstrings, and what makes the South Korean film industry special.

    Did you know K-Dramas are not only dramatic romances? Would you like to have a hologram as a friend? How can we create media that is authentic to the culture and build a cult international following? This episode will inspire you to explore more K-Dramas and view films in general in a new way. Enjoy!

    You can check out where else the Curious and Cultured podcast is streaming here.

    So, what did you think of the episode? Which are your top 3 K-Dramas to watch? Share with me in the comments.

  • Yes, I Finally Have A Podcast: Curious and Cultured

    Yes, I Finally Have A Podcast: Curious and Cultured

    I am excited to introduce you to my podcast Curious and Cultured. You have been asking me and encouraging me to start a podcast for a while now. I’ve been listening! Here are the details on how this podcast came to be. I also included the first episode for you to listen to. In the first episode, we discuss Beyonce’s Renaissance album and how she and her team navigate sensitivities, censorship, queerness, and messaging in this era of information and entertainment. Enjoy!

    Here are the official details for the show:

    This is Curious and Cultured. Sisters, Dagny and Damali, discuss the nuances and experiences that shape our lives. We aim to inspire you to embrace your curiosity and embark on a journey of self-awareness exploring different perspectives. We are creating a safe space where you can take ownership of your evolution individually and collectively. Join us as we unpack hidden gems of wisdom & celebrate the beauty of our weird & unique brilliance.

  • My 10 Days In Benin: West African Kizomba Festival, Cotonou, Ganvie, Ouidah, Graffiti Wall

    My 10 Days In Benin: West African Kizomba Festival, Cotonou, Ganvie, Ouidah, Graffiti Wall

    I’m in Benin! Bonjour! This was my first time and I have a fun adventure to share with you. I attended the West African Kizomba Festival, featuring dance workshops by instructors/ dancers from across West Africa, and dance parties. Also explored the cities Ouidah, Ganvie, and Cotonou, featuring slavery history, the biggest city on water in Africa, the Graffiti Wall, and sites/ information that were the direct inspiration for the movie The Woman King.

    If you know me, you know I have wanted to explore the world, including more of Africa. But, in particular, explore beyond tourism and incorporate more community and fun. I’m so grateful I got the chance to experience this in Benin. This is also my first time sharing with you one of my hobbies: social dancing. I started learning Kizomba and Salsa in Accra around September/ October 2021. Dance has always been a love of mine since I was a kid doing ballet, tap, jazz, folkloric, drill team, and Hip Hop. I had always wanted to learn ballroom dancing, but never had the chance. So, a number of my inner children and inner teens have been very happy with me being consistent with social dancing. Not only for the dancing but also for the community and the new fun experiences that come with it.

    ENG: For my French speakers, please turn on the captions for the video and select settings to translate to French. I made sure to include subtitles to make this video more accessible to you. (All my videos include subtitles like this, if you feel inspired to explore the other content)

    FR: Pour mes francophones, veuillez activer les sous-titres de la vidéo et sélectionner les paramètres à traduire en français. Je me suis assuré d’inclure des sous-titres pour rendre cette vidéo plus accessible pour vous. (Toutes mes vidéos incluent des sous-titres comme celui-ci, si vous vous sentez inspiré pour explorer l’autre content)

    As always, share with me in the comments so we can continue the conversation.

    Arriving in Cotonou

    As I mentioned in the video, I stayed at the Golden Tulip Diplomate in Cotonou. This hotel was very nice. Great location, good customer service, and a comfortable room.

    Exploring Ouidah

    Our first-day tour was in Ouidah. We visited different monuments paying tribute to the slave history that exists here.

    Next, we visited the Door Of No Return.

    We then visited a Python Temple to learn more about the voodoo religion and culture.

    Finally, we visited a wet area village known for fish to have lunch and take a clay bath.

    Exploring Ganvie

    Our second-day tour was in Ganvie. This is the largest lake village in Africa. We spent the whole day here floating through Ganvie, had lunch, and did water bikes.

    The West African Kizomba Festival

    The main reason I came to Benin was to attend the West African Kizomba Festival. The full program includes two days of tourism and three days of dance workshops, socials, and parties. This was the 8th year they hosted this program. Harold is the founder of the festival and the OG for Kizomba in Benin. He started dancing Kizomba in 2011. Basically, everyone who knows how to dance Kizomba in Benin was probably taught by Harold. He was a wonderful host. He is pictured below picking me up at the airport.

    I took more videos than photos of the festival to be able to share more of the ambiance and experience. Big thank you to Real Ability for taking these photos below at the workshops and socials.

    Exploring Cotonou

    After the festival, we did a little more exploring on our own.

    The Amazon statue pays tribute to the Amazon warriors of the Dahomey tribe. This is the original Woman King.

    We went to the Graffiti Wall twice. The first time was early in the afternoon when we discovered it was way too hot to see the whole thing. We still got some epic photos. What do you think? Later we continued to explore the city. Big thank you to Mubarak for taking photos of and with me.

    Of course, I am wearing Bandele Muse earrings in these photos.

    We returned to Ouidah to add more to our exploration. Starting with the Zinsou Museum.

    While still in Ouidah, we visited the Sacred Forest.

    Back in Cotonou, we ate at this lovely restaurant.

    The second time we went to the Graffiti Wall was in the evening. Now we were able to take our time and indulge.

    Dancing In Accra

    As I said in the video, if you are interested in joining the social dance scene in Accra with Kizomba, check out Kizinfinity and Kizomba Queens.

    As I mentioned above, this is my first time sharing with you one of my recent hobbies: social dancing. I learned Kizomba and Salsa in Accra.

    It’s funny how reality evolves when you contribute to the internet. People connect with you during different phases of your journey, but may never experience the full masterpiece puzzle that is you.

    For some on here, you know me as the ultimate magical entertainer. For others on here, you would be shocked to discover I can moonwalk circles around you literally & figuratively. Maybe this is a great time to recognize how nuanced and complex we (definitely me) truly are. It would help to remove the box and timeline you need people to fit in.

    Anyways, social dancing is different from my other dance experience. It’s more of an energetic teleport conversation instead of solo or group formations. It can be a beautiful and fun experience, depending on your partner and venue. It’s a nice way to practice coordination, vulnerability, and balancing physically & emotionally.

    It’s fascinating to witness reactions to social dancing in Accra. Some see it as something only expats do because they only hear about Afrikiko( I don’t dance there much. So don’t come for me unless I call you 🙃). Some share in the excitement because they, too, love it and want to learn more. Some see it as evidence to label you as indecent and easy prey. Again, this is a great time to remind you….do you boo. People will think whatever they want to think regardless.

    We need a proper ballroom. A space where you can dress up to go dancing. Mingle with like-minded community. Be consistent and reliable with music, refreshments, schedules, respect, dance floor, and temperature control. I have the design ideas when you are ready to build it.

    Do you do social dancing? What’s your favorite genre?

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