It’s official. I have moved to a new site and will be blogging and updating there. Due to the amount of people who still visit this site for various reasons, I will keep this blog open. I look forward to continuing this journey with you. Check out the new Dagny Zenovia Headquarters.
Category Archives: My Life
Put your itunes/ipod on shuffle
For each question, press the next button and the title of the song is your answer
YOU MUST RIGHT THAT SONG NAME DOWN NO MATTER HOW SILLY IT SOUNDS
Put any comments in (brackets) after the song name
1. Describe yourself. – Love Is Stronger Than Pride by Sade (i like this)
2. What do people feel when they’re around you? – Amazing by George Michael (hehe, not tooting my own horn)
3. Describe your current relationship – Change Clothes by Jay Z ft Pharell (haha, no)
4. Where would you like to be right now? – Know You Now by Amy Winehouse (doesn’t really make sense)
5. How do you feel about love? – Choice is Yours by Black Sheep (possibly)
6. What is your life like? – It’s Too Late To Change The Time by The Jacksons (nice match)
7. What would you wish for if you only had one wish? – Moscas En La Casa by Shakira (?)
8. Say something wise – Loves Theme by Barry White (nice)
9. How would you describe yourself? – Home by The Wiz Soundtrack (i do like my home)
10. What do you look for in a guy? – Black or White by Michael Jackson (…i’m colorblind)
11. How do you feel today? – Stronger Than Me by Amy Winehouse (true)
12. What’s your life’s purpose? – Au Café de La Paix by Thomas Fersen (?)
13. What is your motto?- Our First Time by Bruno Mars (haha…no)
14. What do your friends think of you? – Silence by Lizz Wright (not surprising)
15. What do your parents think of you? – Last Tango in Paris by Gotan Project (thanks?)
16. What do you think about very often? – Things That Make You Go Hmmm by C+C Music Factory (haha, if I had time I would)
17. What do you think of your best friend? – Pon De Floor by Major Lazer (?)
18. What do you think of the person you like?- Close The Door by Teddy Pendergrass (maybe if we were in a 1970s movie)
19. What is your life story? – Oh Maker by Janelle Monaé (i like this)
20. What do you want to be when you grow up? – Pirates Anthem by Shabba Ranks (of course)
21. What do you think of when you see the person you like? – My Heart by Lizz Wright (this could be true)
22. What will you dance to at your wedding? – Satisfaction by John Legend (i don’t think so)
23. What will play at your funeral? – Lovin’ U by Alicia Keys (maybe)
24. Biggest fear? – In The VIP by Soul Ballet (?)
25. Biggest secret? – Body and Soul by Nnenna Freelon (true)
I found this little list on someone’s tumblr and thought it was pretty accurate. We really should accept each other without distorted perceptions. My fellow introverts, we are not odd. We are just misunderstood. Do you agree?
Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
Happy Anniversary! On this day in 2011 I published my very first post as Dagny Zenovia. Within one year, topics on this blog have expanded from hair and poems to hair, film, music, fashion, history, education, and culture. There are a mixture of short posts with a quick clip and featured articles with in-depth analysis.
I feel this blog has really enhanced my writing skills, enabling me to explore different forums to develop and showcase my creativity. It also serves as great practice for an aspiring journalist.
I have enjoyed every moment of it. I would like to thank all of you for reading, sharing, and commenting. This could have never happened without your support. I hope I can keep this up for many years to come.
Happy New Year! I hope all of you had a wonderful 2011 and will have an amazing 2012. I have enjoyed this first year with my blog. It has grown from a few posts about hair and films to multiple posts about hair, films, fashion, culture, and life. I didn’t get to spend as much time as I wanted to in sharing my opinions this fall, but that will be fixed next year. Look forward to more insightful critiques, inspirations, and showcases…possibly a web-makeover as well. Thank you for all of your comments and support.
I am making my debut in the broadcasting world folks!
Two of my friends and I started a radio show on campus dedicated to Africa. We showcase music from the entire continent, incorporating news, culture, and lifestyle. To do justice to Mother Africa, we spotlight a certain country every week and give information about its culture, sports, and music.
We have been at it for about a month and a half and I am thoroughly enjoying it. I have learned so much and my music library has literally doubled. Figured I should share it with all of you, just in case some of you were interested in tuning in or contributing. We broadcast live every Wednesday at 8-10am ET. All of our shows are uploaded to our mixcloud page. Below is the first half of today’s show.
If you like what you hear, please visit the facebook page and “like” it, then share it, then comment. Then visit our mixcloud page and comment on the playlists. I have found that it is a bit difficult to get an audience to participate and/or contribute, even when it is virtual. If you have any suggestions or requests for music, topics, or anything, you can contact me here or at firstname.lastname@example.org.
The Damn Salon is a business that promotes itself as a natural hair salon. I first heard about them a year ago when I saw a video clip of their work in a hair show. Their website is very polished and their attitude towards natural hair seemed legitimate. They are based in Atlanta, GA and I have been following their work on Facebook. They also travel to different states to set up shop and provide services. The salon recently announced their dates for their DC visit. I have yet to visit a salon since I cut my hair back in March and with the change in seasons I have been thinking about what to do next in terms of styling. I checked out their services and I decided to try “city twists.” I have never gotten twists done and they did look pretty on the pictures they provided. So I decided to make an appointment. Little did I know the nightmare that was about to begin.
City twists cost $250 and up. There is a $100 deposit required to make the appointment. Everyone I spoke to on the phone were very nice, understanding, and helpful. They usually end their statements with “get ready for your damn experience.” It did seem a bit expensive to me, but I figured this could be my special treat for the year. So I was excited and looking forward to it.
About a week later they announced on Facebook a request for models for a hair show they would be doing in DC. I called in to be a part of the show. They asked for me to send in my pictures and measurements. A short time later they accepted my request and asked me to meet them at 4:00pm at the Westin Hotel at the National Harbor in Maryland the next day, which was a Friday, to see my hair and do an “afro-fusion”.
A week before I had registered with Zipcar (which is another ripoff story). I had noticed their advertisements on campus and online for a couple of years, but had never approached the idea. I figured I should have the option to drive if I needed to. So on that Friday I had to take the metro to the Zipcar office to pick up my “Zipcard” and reserve a vehicle. I found one parked at campus and reserved it from 3:00pm to 8:00pm. The trip to and from the office took me about an hour.
Once I got back to campus, I called the lady from the salon whom I spoke with yesterday. She did not answer. So I left a voice mail and a text message confirming our meeting at the Westin Hotel. I then proceeded with my GPS and rented car to Maryland…during rush hour. This was my first experience driving in DC. Coming from Texas, it was a little traumatizing. Eventually I got the hang of it.
It took me about 45 minutes to get to the hotel and find parking. There was no response to my call or message during that time. I entered the lobby of the hotel and called her again. This time she picked up and asked where I was. I told her I was at the hotel. Turns out they were at Pentagon City Mall. She said they had been waiting a little while and decided to go to the mall and that she did not check her phone. She then asked if I could come to the mall. So I returned to my rented car, paid the fee for parking in their parking deck, and made my way to the mall. I missed the exit on the highway a few times and had to do a few U-turns to find the entrance to the parking deck for the mall. I find the two salon ladies shopping at Forever XXI. Not for the show or with other models, but for themselves. They had to change back into their own clothes before talking to me.
I asked for details about the show, since not much was given to me the day before. At first they said I would need to be there at 9am. Then they decide that 12pm would be better. Then they explain that they won’t have to do my hair that night, but probably do some cornrows on the side and have the rest of it sticking out. I then find out that it is not a runway type of show. Instead I would be a mingling-mannequin wearing their hairstyle and passing out their brochures. I decided this was not working for me and told them I couldn’t do it. So I ended up not participating in the show, paying $80 for using a Zipcar for 4 hours, paying for parking at two different parking decks, and going to sleep with a massive headache.
Due to this unfortunate incident, looking at the possible hair style in real life, and a little reflecting on my part, I decided I no longer wanted my hair done by The Damn Salon. So, I called their DC number and told them I would like to cancel my appointment. The person who answered said she was not “stationed” at the time, but will call me back. Two days passed. Then another lady called me back confirming my cancellation. She asked for my reason and I said, “I no longer want my hair done.” So she explained I could put my deposit up for an appointment in February when they will be in DC again. I said I did not want to make another appointment. She then explained I could use the deposit to purchase some of their products. I asked if I could have a refund. She then said that they don’t do refunds when the salon visits other states and continued to repeat my options for another appointment or products. I told her I didn’t want either. So she said she will take me off the calendar because there are “so many people” waiting for a spot and that I can call her back when I decide what I want to do.
I proceeded to search their website for a cancellation and refund policy. I could not find either. There was no mention of exceptions with out-of-state visits nor literature on how to go about canceling an appointment.
I am very disappointed by this experience. I was really looking forward to trying something new and possibly making new friends. I have read a few reviews about this salon and the majority of their comments seem to be pleased with the end product, but put off by the price or location of the out-of-state visit. I am sure they know how to do hair well and maybe they do have a professional operation at the Atlanta salon. However, their lack of consideration for my time and decency towards a client was completely out of line.
I just wanted to share my experience to prevent others from falling in the same trap. Before you submit your credit card number to anything online, make sure you find the fine-print and read all of it. I know I will.
The other day I was searching google for forums on how to get from one train station to another in a certain city. As you might know, if you start typing a phrase in google, it will try to make an educated guess as to what you were thinking. This sometimes causes the searcher to go off tangent and not realize 30 minutes have passed without achieving the initial goal.
So, Google guessed I was searching for “How to get a girl,” which showed multiple links to advice and tips to get a girl. I took a peek at a few of these sites and was quite amused by what I found. I then tried “How to get a guy” and was even more entertained. However, the differences in approach and selected goals are intriguing.
On the one side, guys are encouraged to try to be a friend to the girl they like. They should listen to what she has to say and become familiar with her interests and personality. If they are nervous around her, they should practice questions to ask and conversations to start before meeting her. On the first day they should focus on minimal physical contact and other manners that showcase the charm of a gentleman. While trying to make a good impression, the guy should be honest with her and himself. The main goal is to persuade this girl to want to spend time with the guy. Once these two people become more than friends, the guy should occasionally surprise her with gifts or random acts of kindness.
On the other side, girls are encouraged to observe – or stalk – the guy they like to figure out what type of girls he is attracted to and other interests. Once the girl has compiled a full analysis on this guy, she must re-evaluate herself to see if she fits the part. If he prefers girls with short hair, she should consider cutting her hair. If he prefers girls that giggle, she should try to incorporate that in her behavior. If he likes football, she should become an expert on his favorite team. The main goal is to convince this guy that she is the perfect fit in his life. Once these two people become more than friends, the girl must make a consistent effort to keep him. If he tends to spend more time with his friends, she should send flowers to herself with an anonymous card and/or say she is going out and will be late and not say where she is going. Apparently, this will make the guy curious and make him not spend more time with his friends.
I am not sure how many people follow these guidelines or who is creating them, but I do not think it produces a fair and equal transaction among the two people involved. There are too many strategic personas to keep up with. What happened to just being yourself and chill with what fits? I have not taken any courses with Dr. Phil or Madame Cleo, but I believe love should not be a game or a competition. The ups and downs of learning about each other and growing a special bond together are enough of a challenge. Maybe that is why so many young couples don’t last. Maybe that is why some youths get murdered by their ex significant other. Playing with a person’s emotions can be extremely damaging and the current trend of being involved with a different person every two weeks does not help. The two roles illustrated in these “find love” blogs run parallel with the gender roles we have had throughout history. Women are instructed to look and behave a certain way – from wearing corsets to push-up bras – to attract a good suitor. Men are instructed to treat women in a certain way in public and uphold certain rules in private. Not to say this method is oppressive or anything, but the concept of making a good impression should have a balanced field. Maybe I am looking too deep into this, but I found it intriguing to observe. What do you think?